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Mary is the Author and Facilitator of the Rebirthing Module on Meta DNA and Ecological bodywork Practitioner training
Mary designed and facilitated curriculum on Rebirthing in Practice for 50+ international qualifying bodywork practitioners in training.
Authored detailed course content, recorded experiential practices, delivered 9 live sessions and voiced 200+ experiential practices
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“Mary is an anchor of mystical curiosity, immense strength and animistic wisdom. She has supported me in ways that are profoundly unique, always nurturing my growth with a steady, unwavering belief and presence.
Mary facilitates experiential and educational spaces for practitioners in training with natural grace and commanding knowledge. Her ability to guide and challenge is unmatched, serving as a vital force that pushes me to excavate the deepest insights from within. Mary’s guidance is not just about depth; it’s about reaching into the very core of curiosity and pulling forth the truths that need to be heard and understood. Her presence in this capacity is both a challenge and a gift, as she propels the course forward with her insightful interventions and thought-provoking prompts.
Listeners and participants will also experience Mary's mystical voice through various recordings integrated into the course. Her voice rich with wisdom and embued in serene power, will add an ethereal layer to our teachings and practices. The timbre and tone of her speech will carry more than just information; they resonate deeply within the very essence of the spiritual and scientific themes we will come to explore. “
— Narah Wilder Founder of Wild Sexuality and META DNA & ECOLOGICAL BODYWORK practitioner training
Introduction to rebirthing IN CONEXT
Introduction to Rebirthing and The Perinatal Matrices
—Influences that shape human consciousness from prenatal life through Birth
Perinatal Matrix One - The Amniotic Universe
Rebirthing, what is it?
Why do we do it and where does it start?
At the moment of conception, spirit meets flesh. In a flash, we experience the big bang and the universe of ‘you’ begins rapidly growing and expanding. A living dance between the DNA and its environment begins.
As we grew and developed in our mothers womb, we experienced the weathers of her body as our entire universe. We listened to muffled sounds of friends & soon to be met family on the other side as we lay held in the unseen, floating in the loving heat of our mothers flesh and eros learning her, the matter and vibration, the sound of our mothers' voice from the inside out. Here we are, immersed in a living breathing body, infinitely open to the collective unconscious and the world of possibilities. Unified and one with ‘creator’.
When labour came our walls came crashing down and we were expelled from our mothers bodies and the quality and characteristics of this perinatal phase and separation from it can definitively shape the way we relate to the world around us, until we experience - rebirth or something to that effect.
‘Rebirthing’ is the engagement in a breathing pattern that merges inhale and exhale connecting us to our original life force, that over time brings us back to god - the creator or that original ‘spark’.
The effectiveness and characteristics of the work in process depend fundamentally on setting, ritual, person (‘s history), intention and its total integration. That means embarking on your rebirthing journey consciously is as fundamental as choosing the right team to hold and support you at your own pace and time. Throughout this programme we’ll unlock the tools and resources you need in place to discern just that!
THE SECOND MATRIX - NO EXIT
The Perinatal Matrices
—Influences that shape human consciousness from prenatal life through Birth
The Second Matrix, BPM II, or EXPULSION FROM PARADISE pertains to our experiences when contractions begin and before the cervix opens.
Labour is said to come from the Latin word laborare.
Laborare means "to labor, strive, exert oneself, suffer, be in distress, (transitive) to work out".
The word "labour" may also be related to the Latin word lābī which means "to fall".
BPM II is the beginning of that journey. It’s the depression. A time of deep pressure - ‘the dark night of the soul’ and the beginning of the end.
Hanging upside down by one ankle, suspended in time or forced to see things differently. “The Hanged Man” of the Tarot might speak to the infants place in this matrix - among our list of options are surrender, disarmament, sacrifice, a time to pause, reflect, and look at a situation from a new perspective.
Rather than taking immediate action, at this stage; we are letting go of paradise, hung by hook under a kneading pressure before we are born. It’s the first degree of separation, where one is becoming two. Even though we have yet see the exit, we know that the only way out is through - and like a slingshot, skin is stretched, back, loaded strength the cervix is closed and pulling it all together with mighty potential. It's a tightly squeezed contraction but embracing the pull propels the launch. In darkness we actively and patiently contract inward awaiting dilation.
On the other side the objects will divide from the expansive push born from the pull…
When we come across Two in Tarot, it suggests opposing forces at play. The second Major Arcana card in a tarot deck is The High Priestess. Often veiled, between two pillars with a crescent moon at her feet, to where the water breaks. She is in-between the black and white pillars of duality - the veiled and unseen Sidhe between the two making three, making her an ally for BPM III. In the context of birthing or being born, The Priestess will encourage the lunation of your tidal instincts through the darkness. She serves a reminder to embrace the cyclical wet and watery nature of life and to trust the creative process. The pomegranate in her hand is the omen that we are about to descend into a more heated realm and that his descension, has purpose within the creative cycle - fertile grounds. The contractions, closed cervix and the drastic chemical changes combine to create a potentially painful, life threatening environment not unlike ‘the end of days’ from which the fetus may sense a possibility of no escape. This moment in birth is marked amongst traditions from cosmology to mythology. It’s Venus’ journey. It’s Innana’s, Isthar’s journey to be hung on a hook in Erishkakals underworld. She hangs for 3 days and 3 nights. Here heated and unsure as to whether she will make it out alive. We’ll reflect later on this moment and its representation across faiths and the world of art.
The time spent in this self enclosing, no exit situation varies widely from person to person and will impact our relationship to the Second Matrix from then on. For some it might have been minutes, for others many hours.
The old Latin saying expresses the human predicament very succinctly: Mors certa, hora incerta - (Death is certain, the hour is uncertain). Some will surrender and flow, others may be crushed facing great force, others will sail through or battle triumphantly.
“ I have heard women describe it as glass shattering in their backs. My first birth literally floored me. During the first stage of contractions the womb is physically opening a gate and it takes as much strength to open a gate as it does to keep one closed. The womb is the strongest muscle in our body - keeping the cervix shut to safely carry a baby whose average weight will be 3,3 kg + placenta and amniotic fluid, the womb holds another 1,5 kg.
By the end of those nine months, the force with which the womb contracts, creates a dynamic change in the woman herself. She has now become the vessel for the womb.
Some call it true labour, when contractions last up to 90 seconds every four minutes or so. To hold this force of nature, to be a vessel for it, may require all the capacity you can find in yourself.
- Birth as Initiation by Suzanne Schreve
Listening to Suzanne’s recollection from the perspective of the mother, we can only imagine the impact these contractions have on the child. The qualities alive in child and mothers’ physical, emotional and psychological experience throughout this defining experience are what will shape their relationship to BPMII and its core themes.
Was there trust in the journey, did mother and child feel ready to embrace such a charge?
What kind of convergence took place here?
Feeling stuck is a normal occurrence before the cervix is open, but occasionally the birth process can get arrested in later stages and does not proceed as it should. There are any number of reasons for this to happen. The mother’s pelvis might be too narrow, the uterine contractions ineffective, or the placenta can block the uterine opening. On occasion, the child is excessively large or lies in an abnormal position that is not conducive to a smooth birth. Premature or unnecessary epidural can lead to devastating side effects. A variety of unfavourable circumstances can make birth longer and more difficult; resulting in a more traumatic impact on the infant and mother than a smooth pleasurable delivery; traumatic delivery’s or unsavoury convergences here can cultivate imprints of mistrust, disembodiment and unnecessary physiological and psychological suffering in the face of challenges as these patterns repeat. I remind you here that as we look at BPM II we are looking at this perinatal matrix and how it may shape our relationship to the world around us. Chronic feelings of entrapment, fatigue and overwhelm including unresolved victimhood can stem from BPMII.
My bodily sufferings were so intolerable that, though in my life I have endured the severest sufferings of this kind, none of them is of the smallest account by comparison with what I felt then, to say nothing of the know
ledge that they would be endless and never ceasing. And even these are nothing by comparison with the agony of my soul, an oppression, a suffocation, and an affliction so deeply felt, and accompanied by such hopeless and distressing misery, that I cannot too forcibly describe it.
—St. Teresa of Avila, Life
Just as the fetus might experience a shift in the oxygen-CO2 balance during birth due to compression of the umbilical cord or the limited ability to breathe, rhythmic breathing can lead to a temporary low CO2 levels in the blood that mimics a state of oxygen deprivation. This shift may spark somatic memories of suffocation or fear of not being able to breathe. As mentioned at the beginning, engagement with this breathing pattern in the right environment can bring on a rebirthing experience that includes the physiological and emotional symptoms associated with BPMII. During a rebirthing or holotropic session you or your client may feel physical sensations of tightness and constrictions that mirror the sensations of being trapped or experiencing loss of control. Resistance, fear, desire to tap out, dissociate or escape. Resentment, rage, confusion, frustration are prime culprits. Rebirthing is designed to support you in not only meeting these sensations with more trust and ease but by continuing to increase the chargein an optimal environment, with space and freedom to process these feelings we can make way for a more pleasurable convergence. Internally, building the trust between body and breath, contraction and expansion.
Rebirthing shows us how to lend our full attention to these somatic cues and let them pass without judgment, embrace the hanged man and consider a new perspective. However, that can be easier said than done when we feel like we are meeting death in the struggle to be born. Feelings of ‘stuckness’, ‘rejection’, ‘helplessness’ or ‘i’m doing it wrong’ can haunt individuals with perinatal intensity long into the furture. The international Best Seller The Artist's Way, Julia Cameron speaks of unblocking the blocked artist. The blocked artist is a person who may exhibit similar attributes to the more unsavoury second matrix patterns in relation to their creative birthing process. In her book we meet the ‘poisonous playmates’ or ‘crazy makers’ who exhibit artistic constipation and wreak havoc in this phase of the process. Julia Cameron has a simple way of naming things and themes we meet in the Second Matrix out in the world and offers tools and insights as to how to move through them.
Matrix Three - The EverLasting Cup
Matrix Four
Remembering Ritual -
Ritual is how we materialise things. Across Indigenous cultures worldwide, moments of initiation have long been witnessed and held within ceremonial contexts. Ritual is the practice of weaving across thresholds - large and small - consciously or unconsciously. While the largest of these we may encounter might be birth and death. The smallest may be how we lick our lips at at the grease dripping off grilled cheese, soften at the scent of a rose or how we expand into our first breath at sunrise before our eyes open; holding our precious body just a little longer before stumbling into the world, so that we remember who we are when we dream.
How we do this matters. Enter the day, that is. It makes a difference. From the biological to the elemental - ritual is a rhythmic, creative dance with the divine. It’s how we shape things, how we co-create the world we live in. To awaken disembodied amongst alarms and loud noises dependent on cortisol and hope that the day won’t be cruel is to live in a very different reality to someone who awakens, listening and alive in a co-woven creation. What’s your normal? From my perspective, guardianship is the process of supporting the authentic actualisation of spirit through matter. The metaphysical materialised and streamlined through a conscious and careful creator.
All too often, conversations about creative guardianship emphasise strategy. Yet if you ask an artist how they arrived where they are, they rarely describe a calculated breakthrough. More often, they speak of a series of lucky breaks — a communal unfolding shaped through mutual belief, where one thing led to another. Joseph Campbell described this phenomenon as the appearance of a thousand unseen helping hands.
Reflection
How do you ritualise your life?
How do you engage with conscious and effective change — both solo and social?
What communal structures are you participating in shaping?
How do you anchor your containers? Where does your heart script live within your ritual?
Julia Cameron describes these moments as synchronicities — the experience that when we take a small, committed step toward what matters, support begins to appear. Joseph Campbell called them breaks. Anthropologists understand them as expressions of the power of ritual in motion, conscious dreaming.
Within the context of Matrix Four, we understand this as a clear and embodied call-and-response between yourself and the world around you — a dialogue that is always taking place through resonance, prayer and presence.
“Ritual is one of the only concepts we find across all human cultures throughout history without exception. From 200,000 years ago through multiple species… it connects all of us who live with all of us who have ever lived.
Through conscious ritual, we are reminded that our cells — and our sense of self — can be reconstituted for as long as our mortal life continues. We become cultural beings through immersion. From birth, we are immersed in the texture of a given culture, and through this we learn beliefs, values, and norms. In anthropology, this process is known as enculturation. It can be undertaken consciously, or it can occur unconsciously through media, imposed ritual, and social expectation.
We can imagine culture as a vast, invisible web connecting people within a group — a web composed of shared beliefs, values, behaviours, and norms. This web is not static; it evolves as people interact with one another and with their environment. Ritual is one of the primary ways we shape and reshape culture: assigning meaning to symbols, actions, and stages, and then repeating them — from rites of passage to ceremony, protest, and daily practice, whether solo or communal. Ritual is how meaning is anchored to action, and how worlds are changed.”
— Hannah Maria Chilsom
FUNDAMENTALS OF RITUAL
1. Intention
The clarification of purpose. This includes preparing the space and gathering appropriate symbols, elements, guides, beings, and totems to support the journey. Whatever the form, intention is communicated with clarity.
2. Separation
The dissolution or temporary release of a current social role or way of being. This is the movement away from the everyday and into the realm of the sacred. In the context of rebirthing or conscious connected breathwork, this corresponds with the resting of the prefrontal cortex and the onset of transient hypofrontality.
3. Liminality
The cauldron of ritual — the space where new and old aspects of self swirl and intermingle. A threshold state in which identity is neither what it was nor yet what it will become. Social rules show their seams here; roles loosen. This is a space of inherent spaciousness where transformation becomes possible — a state of both vulnerability and infinite potential.
4. The Return
The sacred homecoming. Integration begins. How one relates may change; what one relates to may shift. The individual is welcomed back into community, carrying what has been transformed and newly claimed.
5. Action
Transformation is incomplete without movement. Following insight, wisdom, or power gained, relationship to the environment must change. What action is required to complete the cycle?
“Remember that creativity is a tribal experience. Elders initiate the gifted youngsters who cross their path — often without knowing why they are doing so.”
— Julia Cameron
How do you ritualise your life?
How do you engage with conscious and effective change, solo and social?
What Communal Structures do you engage with shaping?
How do you shape and anchor your containers - where and does your heart script anchor your ritual?
“We pretend it is hard to follow our hearts dreams. The truth is it is difficult to avoid walking through the many doors that will open. Turn aside your dream and it will come back to you again. Get willing to follow it again and a mysterious door will swing open. The universe is prodigal in its support and we are miserly in what we accept. All gift horses are looked in the mouth and usually returned to the sender. We say we are scared by failure, but what frightens us more is the possibility of success. Take one small step in the direction of a dream and watch the synchronous doors flying open. Seeing, after all, is believing.
Whatever you think you can do or believe you can do - begin it. Action has magic, grace and power in it.”
Julia Cameron
Daily Practice for Matrix Four
Write for 3 pages uncensored and without pause or judgement. Consider this an opportunity to witness your own process in this moment at this time. Let your hand guide you. Do not pause for thought or musing, stay in flow, continually revealing what is alive here now in this moment, without censorship no matter how silly.
When done consistently over time, we become well versed with our inner voice and our truth. We let ourselves be guided from source and when we ritualise this process we enter a space of guardianship.
Let your pen fall away after you have completed your third page.
Sit up from where you are. Let your base become full and heavy as your spine unfolds and your shoulders slide back. Let your next inhale travel through the body taking up more space throughout the pelvic bowl and let it fall away on your exhale. Let out a sound, sigh or yawn with it if that’s where you are led. Allow the elbows, wrists and knuckles to be loose and heavy and with your next breath allow more space to flow through knees, ankles and the knuckles of your toes…. Let the breath flow through the body, unhindered by opening and softening wherever you can afford to create more space.
Listen to the signals of your body… notice where you are today without judgement. Tune into that space behind the eyes and listen to the sensations that seek your attention and meet them with your breath. Recollect yourself as you cross the threshold of a new day.
Notice if any parts of you resist this birthing can, may you call them in with care and say yes as they move and express themselves to you. Can you respond and tend?
Over time begin to merge the breaths as you merge with the day ahead - spirit and matter. With each inhale accepting life and each exhale giving love outward from within. Choose the sovereignty that reigns in the alignment of your body and breath and our cyclical nature. As you feel each breath move through the body, fully. No corner left unturned and at your own pace in your own time, focus on aligning your self with this moment here now, at this time on this planet. Inhale the colours, the cracks, the details in the temperature and scents, exhale intimacy, presence and acceptance.
Invite today in, as a brand new day from this resourced and present place.
After 25 conscious connected breaths merging inhale and exhale bring yourself to a still point presence.
MANTRA
The mantra "Sa Ta Na Ma" in Kundalini yoga represents the cycle of life: "Sa" symbolizes the beginning/infinity, "Ta" represents life/existence, "Na" signifies death/transformation, and "Ma" embodies rebirth/regeneration.
This mantra becomes a tool for meeting each day new and settling into conscious guardianship. It’s an opportunity to realign your body with your quiet thoughts, with what you whisper and what you say out loud. Let your engagement with this mantra set you free to be a conscious creator of your reality, daily - irregardless of your past, irregardless of what you have released into your morning pages or what you ‘think’ may lie ahead. Let this mantra set you free, to start here now with all you have in your moment. Your breath and your body.
From where you are sat, open your palms.
For this practice we’ll be co-ordinating each syllable to a finger and thumb press.
Thumb to index Sa
Thumb to middle finger Ta,
Thumb to ring finger Na,
Thumb to baby finger Ma
You can use a timer, a clock or a soundtrack.
Begin the first round aloud for a minimum of 1 minute….
The second round is whispered
The third thales place in silence. Say the mantra internally and move the fingers…
Enter a space of conscious guardianship & let this daily practice support you in losing any vagueness in how precisely you communicate, out loud, in whipsters and in silence- body and breath.
Welcome to the fourth matrix.
Here you can invite your SanKalpa also known as an ‘I am’ statement to begin your day. It can be as long or short as you desire. Let it be a prayerful initiation. Let it be embodied. Sense for your Ishq move towards this specifically. Consider your needs for the day and take action.
Ishq
(noun)
A love so intense, it consumes. Not desire… but devotion. The fire that purifies - not burns. Surrender. A heart given so fully, even pain became a kind of prayer. Eyes lowered. Intentions raised. Hands employed. Feet grounded. A devotion to witness the divine within the beloved and love what they awaken in you unconditionally. To savour tasting the reflection of the divine in all things.
I like to work with a miracle prayer some days - other days I like to work with the chakras.
The miracle prayer works with your hands
Connect with the line between the earth and your crown. Find center at your heart - connected.
Find the line from here out to your thumb. Feel the connection between your heart and your thumb.
What do you desire for yourself?
Let yourself be guided toward you desire, listen carefully then simplify it into one word or one thing eg- (present, free, strong, forgiven, flexible, well f*****, well fed, soft, malleable, aware )
Breath my breath let yourself be consumed by this desire. Let it fill your body. Let it be here now.
Sit with it as long as it takes to fully land and be maintained here
Say it…
I am ….
Find the line from your heart out to your pointer finger. Feel the connection between your heart and your pointer finger
What is your prayer for your family?
Breath my breath let yourself be consumed by this desire. Let it fill your body. Let it be here now. Sit with it as long as it takes to fully land and be maintained here.
My family is….
Find the line from your heart out to your middle finger. Feel the connection between your heart and your middle finger
What do you desire for your immediate community or social circles - how do you want to show up here?
My community is….
(generous, patient, assuming the best intent)
I relate to my community through…
(generosity, patience, assuming the best intent)
Breath my breath let yourself be consumed by this desire until it becomes you.. Let it fill your body. Let it be here now. Present. Sit with it as long as it takes to fully land and be maintained here.
Find the line from your heart out to your ring finger. Feel the connection between your heart and your ring finger
What do you desire in your relationship with the planet, her elemental wisdom and all living beings?
Breath my breath let yourself be consumed by this desire until it becomes you.. Let it fill your body. Let it be here now. Present. Sit with it as long as it takes to fully land and be maintained here.
Name it…
Finally
Find the line from your heart out to your baby finger. Feel the connection between your heart and baby finger
Align this connection with outer planety wisdom throughout infinite time and space. Consider your connection to what is boundless -the miraculous. What miracle do you pray for?
Breath my breath let yourself be consumed by this desire until it becomes you.. Let it fill your body. Let it be here now. Present. Sit with it as long as it takes to fully land and be maintained here.
Name your miracle.
Let yourself feel all of your prayers, actualised where now, through your body, your breath your hands and so it is.
You can use this same system but through the chakras rather than the hands - relative to the themes of each chakra, Security, Presence, Fertility, Sexuality, Relationships, Action, Harmony, Circulation, Speech, Creation, Vision, Forgiveness, Purpose and the miraculous.
Let this be your actionable compass.
Do my actions and choices align with my prayers?
Name the prayers.
Embody them.
Act accordingly.
What will you do today for Palestine?